Radical Self-Love: I am Enough!

Radical Self-Love is all about unconditional love directed towards me from me.  It is about loving every part of my being.  All of my wonderful, amazing, good stuff as well as all the nasty, icky stuff I try to hide.  Radical Self-Love is a fierce kind of love because it has to continuously stand up to my ego.

My ego wants me to stay confined, boxed in, afraid, unsure and small.  My Radical Self-Love wants me to expand and be free to accept all that is me.  Once I learned to accept myself as I am in the moment my power of choice became clear.  I can choose to change or not to change, both with self-love.

From a place of Radical Self-Love, I can choose to make any changes to myself and my world.  Changes I believe are appropriate for me to achieve the life I desire.  I have learned to choose my true self without fear or judgment but with loving kindness.

Radical Self-Love Concept One

There are 10 Concepts of Radical Self-Love that I developed and practice, but for now, we will talk about the first concept, “I am Enough”.  I have discovered that one of my biggest issues was always feeling like I was not enough. 

The list seemed endless, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not rich enough, not nice enough, not generous enough, not stylish enough, not fit enough, etc.

I was always trying to achieve more but it was not because I really wanted those things.  I believed I was not enough because those around me always seem to want more from me and I felt obligated to them.  I wanted to be accepted for being me but I was too busy trying to be who others wanted me to be.  Therefore, I was lost and extremely confused.

Life became a never-ending quest to become a good enough wife, mother, daughter, friend, employee, etc. and it was leading me to nowhere good.  My life was leading no-where because I was not the one determining where to go.  I was so caught up in trying to be enough for everyone else that I did not know what I really wanted or needed.

I am Enough!

So this part of my journey started with me accepting that I was enough, right here and right now, in all my roles.  Not an easy endeavor at all.  For 40 days I repeated these words to myself until I started to feel like they were true,

“I am enough, I have always been enough, and I will always be enough”.

Simple words but they have been life-changing for me.  I meditated on these words and the feelings associated with them for weeks.  Once I started believing that I was truly enough I became incredibly kinder towards myself and others.

I was able to stop criticizing and beating up on myself.  Instead, when I made a big mistake, I would take a few very deep breaths. After I became more centered, I proceed to discovering the lessons I learned from my mess-up.  Then I was able to figure out the steps I need to take to get me back on track with my life.

These simple words have improved my “I Fucked Up!” rebound time.  Knowing and feeling, that I am enough has saved so much emotional energy.  I don’t waste as much time crying, being ashamed or embarrassed over some of the blunders I make.

Let’s get one thing clear, on this journey we will make mistakes, including some really bad ones but it does not mean the journey is over and it does not mean that we are unworthy of being happy with who we really are. To know and feel that I am enough, regardless of the situation has been life-changing for me.

Why This Mantra?

“I am enough.” – states that right in this moment I am all that I am supposed to be.  Sometimes that means I am at 110% and sometimes that means I am at 10%.  Whatever my level, I am enough.

“I have always been enough.” – is a statement that stops me from beating myself up for events that happened in my past.  Blame is put to the side.  This way I do not remain in the past for too long going over old events that I cannot change no matter how hard I might try.

“I will always be enough.” – states that whatever happens in the future, “good or bad”, I will be enough, even in that moment, regardless of the outcomes.

How To Use This Mantra

To have Radical Self-Love, repeat the “Enough Mantra” to yourself every morning for at least 5 minutes. Then sit quietly for 2 minutes before ending your meditation.

If you don’t have 7-10 minutes in the morning try repeating the “Enough Mantra” before getting out of bed, midday and before going to sleep.  Feel free to repeat it as often as you need or want it.

As you repeat the words imagine that they are true, even if you don’t fully believe at first.  Let the practice of repeating the word, at least three times a day, do the work.

Comment below to let me know how this practice has changed your life.

Click HERE for all 10 Concepts of Radical Self-Love.

Much Love, CharmaineW.